Teach Your Kids Obedience And Trust Your Advice in Islam

Parents face great challenges when they begin teaching their kids Islamic creed and the commands of Allah. Therefore, we must first work to make them trust the advice of Islam and obey what God has commanded us with confidence, love, and conviction. In this article, we offer you the best advice to help you teach your kids obedience and trust in Islamic teachings.

Importance of upbringing in Islam

Upbringing in Islam is not only about teaching our kids right from wrong, but is a much deeper process than that. Islam considers upbringing (tarbiyah) to be one of the most important responsibilities of parents.The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: «All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards». Good upbringing is one of the forms of ongoing charity in Islam.

The importance of bringing up kids in Islam includes the following points:

• upbringing in Islam is a major responsibility and trust that God has given to parents, and it's a process that includes building their minds, spirits, and character, not just correcting their behavior as some people might think.
• Islamic upbringing is a more comprehensive process than education. We do not stop at school and lessons, but rather it is a continuous process that aims to build a balanced personality that knows God, understands its role in life, and takes responsibility for itself and society.
• Islamic upbringing gives your child the opportunity to grow up with ideas, behavior, and a personality that combine good qualities and morals with wise thinking. This happens through stories from Islamic history and the lives of the prophets and their companions, because kids at a young age definitely want to copy the good qualities of adults.
• Islamic upbringing aims to develop religious awareness, build strong morals, and foster a positive personality that combines worship, knowledge, and work.

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Teaching children respect in Islam

Respect is one of the most important things parents should teach their kids, as it is one of the basic pillars of Islamic upbringing. It reflects the strength of a child's faith and shapes their relationships with others. Islam doesn't just teach kids what they should do, but also how to act with kindness, humility, and good manners.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “The best among you are those with the best manners” (Sahih al-Bukhari). This hadith emphasizes that true respect comes from the heart and is manifested in actions, words, and attitudes. Here are some practical ways to teach kids respect in Islam:

• You should encourage your kids to greet adults, friends, and relatives by saying “Salam aleikum” when they meet them. Kids should also be.
• You should also encourage kids from a young age to say thank you when they get help or something from someone else. 
• Make sure you’re a good role model for your kids. If you want to teach them respect, practice good manners in front of them.
• Listen to your kids, as this is an ideal way to teach them that respect is mutual between you. When you listen to your kids, they learn to listen to you. 
• Be sure to teach them daily habits of respecting adults and kids through various life situations.

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Obedience and trust as foundations of faith

Faith in God is not just something we learn and teach our kids, it is much deeper than that. Faith is a condition that must be lived and passed on to our kids.

Kids begin to understand the meaning of faith from an early age through the way they see obedience and trust and experience them in their daily lives. Obedience and trust are the foundation of faith.

How do you teach obedience to your kids? Direct the heart to do what is right

Obedience means following God's commands with love and respect. When parents teach their kids to listen, be kind, and do what is right even when no one is watching, they help them understand the true meaning of obeying God. Through small daily actions such as praying on time or speaking kindly, kids learn that obedience is a way of showing love for their Creator.

How do you teach your kids trust? Make them feel secure.

Trust in God simply means being confident in God's justice and wisdom, and believing that God is more merciful to us than we are to ourselves. He knows what is best for us even when things don't go our way. Kids can learn trust when parents remind them that “God always takes care of us” or “If something doesn't happen, God has something better in store.” Words like these build calm hearts and teach them to rely on God instead of worrying or complaining.

When kids are raised to be obedient and trusting as part of their faith, they develop strong, peaceful hearts filled with love for God. These values become the foundation of their character, guiding them to make the right choices, be patient in difficult times, and walk through life with confidence and faith.

Qur’an and Hadith on obedience to parents

Obedience to parents in Islam is not merely a social duty or behavior that must be adhered to, but rather it is an act of worship and one of the pillars of faith in God. The Holy Qur'an and the Prophetic Hadiths emphasize the importance of obeying them. Obedience begins with kids respecting and listening to them and extends to providing assistance and care for parents in their daily lives.

Allah says in Surah Al-Isra (verse 23): Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and to be good to your parents. If either of them, or both of them, reaches old age with you: do not say to them words of disrespect, nor scold them, but speak to them respectfully. (وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said in a hadith: «The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of the parents, and the displeasure of Allah is in the displeasure of the parents».

The verse and the hadith emphasize that obedience to parents is not just a household rule or good behavior, but is directly related to the worship of Allah, for every good deed toward parents brings kids closer to Allah.

Here are some tips for teaching your kids obedience:

• Teach your kids that obedience begins with listening to their parents and speaking kindly, not with fear or punishment.
• Encourage your kids to help around the house and show daily respect, such as saying “thank you” and “please.”
• Link every good deed to the knowledge that God loves those who honor their parents, to reinforce trust in God and that obedience to Him always brings good.

In this way, the concept of obedience to parents becomes a natural part of a child's life, instilling faith and trust in God in a practical and tangible way.

Building Trust Between Parents and Children

No doubt, trust is the foundation of a strong relationship between parents and kids, and building trust is not an easy process. It starts with honesty, consistency, and care. When kids see their parents keeping their promises, acting fairly, and treating them with respect, they learn to rely on God and others in a positive way.

Ways to build trust every day

• Parents should keep their promises, even small commitments, such as reading a story or helping with homework, show reliability.
• Give kids your full attention, acknowledge their feelings, and listen to them carefully.
• Help them understand why rules exist rather than just imposing them.
• Be a role model of trust in God by showing that relying on God in daily life brings peace and confidence.

By practicing these routines, parents teach kids that trust is earned through honesty, respect, and love. This foundation strengthens obedience, trust, and faith, and helps kids grow into responsible, ethical adults.

How to Advise Children with Wisdom in Islam

Giving advice to our kids is not an easy task at all. Parents need to possess certain qualities and follow a set of guidelines that help them guide their kids wisely and intelligently. 

You are giving advice, but you are not controlling your kid's mind. Therefore, you must speak kindly, explain the reasons, provide good examples that are easy to understand, and avoid punishment and intimidation. Here are a few steps to help you give wise advice to your kids:

 

• Choose the right moment to give advice. Talk to your child when they are calm, receptive, and ready to listen.
• Use gentle language when giving guidance, and avoid harsh words or shouting. Kindness attracts more attention than fear.
• Explain why you are giving advice, help them understand why a certain behavior is right or wrong, and relate it to Islamic values.
• Relate the advice to faith, and show how obedience, honesty, and patience please Allah and strengthen character.
•  Praise effort and improvement, even in small achievements, to build confidence. 

By advising kids wisely, parents nurture trust, respect, and faith, and help them grow into good, confident, and responsible adults.

Using stories and examples from Seerah

One effective method parents can use to teach children Obedience to parents (بر الوالدين), respect, and obedience is storytelling, as it shapes the child's mind and heart. The Prophet's biography contains countless interesting stories that can be used to teach children obedience to parents and trust in God.

Parents should share stories and examples from the Prophet's biography with their children in a simple and appealing way to teach them values that touch their hearts before reaching their minds. Here are some tips for using stories effectively with your children:

• Start with short, familiar stories. You can tell your child about the Prophet's childhood, how he was patient in difficult circumstances, and how he was honest and trustworthy.
• Highlight the moral lessons. After each story, you can ask simple questions such as, “What did the Prophet do?” or “Why was this the right choice?” This helps children relate the story to their own behavior.
• Encourage your child to think. Let your child share how they would act in a similar situation. This builds empathy and understanding.
• Use everyday examples. For example, when your child shows kindness or honesty, connect it to a story from the Prophet's biography to make the lesson memorable.

The Prophet taught others through storytelling, compassion, and example, and never through harshness. Following this prophetic method makes learning enjoyable, emotional, and spiritual for kids.

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At the clothing Store story 

The story “At the Clothing Store”, published by Manarah Publishing, is a wonderful example of how Islamic stories can teach children important life lessons. Through its engaging narrative, the story shows children the value of trust, honesty, and making good choices, all within everyday situations they can relate to.

By following the characters in the story, children learn how to trust Allah in small decisions, understand the importance of honesty, and practice obedience and respect in their own lives. This makes it an excellent tool for parents who want to nurture faith, confidence, and moral values in their children.

Using stories like this alongside daily guidance helps children internalize Tarbiyah (تربية إسلامية), connecting lessons from books to real-life situations. It supports parents in raising righteous children (تربية صالحة) who grow up confident, kind, and faithful.

Akhlaq series

The Akhlaq Series, published by Manarah Publishing, is a collection of books designed to teach children everything related to faith, obedience, Islamic values, and proper conduct. Each story focuses on practical lessons that children can understand and apply in their daily lives.

By reading the Akhlaq Series, children learn how to develop trust in Allah, practice obedience to parents, and cultivate good manners and moral behavior. These books make complex Islamic teachings easy to grasp and enjoyable, helping parents in raising righteous children (تربية صالحة) through engaging stories and relatable examples.

Incorporating the Akhlaq Series into daily routines allows children to see how Tarbiyah (تربية إسلامية) works in real life, strengthening their faith and nurturing confident, responsible, and ethical behavior from an early age.

The Role of Tarbiyah in Islamic Parenting

In Islam, Tarbiyah (تربية إسلامية) is the basis of bringing up kids. It goes deeper than just teaching rules and right and wrong behavior. It's about nurturing kids' hearts, souls, and minds to have faith, mercy, and trust in Allah and His commands.

Tarbiyah (تربية إسلامية) helps you pave the way for your kids to develop a responsible personality that trusts in God and obeys Him sincerely.

We recall Prophet Luqman’s advice to his son to his son when he said to him: “O my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you.” This advice is the foundation of proper Islamic upbringing, which begins in the heart and is built through actions and truths.

Key aspects of parenting include the following:

• Parents should model good behavior for their kids because they learn quickly through observation. When parents demonstrate honesty, patience, and kindness, these values become a natural part of the kid's personality.
• Use stories from the Quran, Hadith, and Sirah to teach kids respect, gratitude, honesty, and compassion, and make this a daily habit. Repetition through daily routine helps to reinforce these values.
• Encourage kids to pray, reflect, and make good decisions. Explain to them why we follow Islamic teachings, so that their obedience stems from conviction rather than habit.

When practiced with love and consistency, parenting shapes kids to become good, confident, and emotionally balanced Muslims who live with faith, trust, and good character, ready to contribute positively to their families and communities.

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Daily routines to build obedience and trust

Building obedience and trust in children is not about strict rules,it’s about daily habits that nurture faith, communication, and love. When Islamic values are part of everyday life, obedience becomes natural and trust grows strong between parents and children.

Here are simple routines every Muslim family can practice:

 

• Begin the day with du’a: Teach your child to say Alhamdulillah upon waking up and to start the morning with gratitude to Allah.
• Pray together: Performing salah as a family helps children connect obedience to both faith and togetherness.
• Share daily reflections: Talk after school or before bedtime about what they learned, felt, or struggled with, it builds emotional trust.
• Use mealtime as a teaching moment: Remind them of manners like saying Bismillah, eating with the right hand, and not wasting food.
• Give small responsibilities: Let children help with chores or decisions to make them feel trusted and capable.
• End the day with stories: Read from the Akhlaq Series or Seerah stories that highlight good manners, patience, and respect.
  
  

When these routines are practiced with warmth and consistency, children grow up with a natural sense of discipline, gratitude, and confidence in their parents’ guidance.

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FAQs

How do I teach my child obedience in Islam?

Be a role model for them, and obey God's commands yourself. Teach them with love and consistency. Small habits such as saying Bismillah or helping around the house naturally build obedience. Praise good behavior, keep rules simple, and use stories from the Quran/Sirah. We recommend the Al-Akhlaq series from Manarah Publishing, which is designed for kids and suitable for all ages.

What is the Islamic way to discipline children?

Discipline means teaching, not punishment. Guide calmly and compassionately, explain mistakes, set fair consequences, use gentle reminders, and give clear reasons for any advice.

How do you balance love and authority in Islamic parenting?

Be loving but firm. Authority comes from respect, not fear. To achieve this, show your love daily, set consistent boundaries, and remind them that obedience pleases God.

How can I make my child listen to my advice in a positive way?

Talk when they are calm, use gentle language, and make advice sound like guidance. Be sure to choose the right moment, show empathy, keep advice short, and end with encouragement.